Supporting Children Through Pet Loss

Children often form some of their deepest emotional bonds with family animals. Losing a pet can therefore be one of their first experiences of death, shaping how they understand loss and grief throughout their lives.

Honesty and inclusion are key.

Children are incredibly perceptive, and shielding them from what is happening can create confusion or mistrust. Use clear, age appropriate language: “Flora is very old and her body is not working anymore. She will not be able to live much longer.” Avoid euphemisms like “put to sleep” which can create fear around sleep itself.

Invite children to be part of the process where appropriate. They might draw pictures, write letters, or create a small ceremony to say goodbye. These acts help them feel involved and respected in their grief.

After the loss, encourage them to express feelings in whatever way suits them – through art, storytelling, or play. Some children may appear unaffected, only to revisit grief later. Let them know that however they feel is acceptable.

It can help to create tangible memorials: planting a tree, keeping a framed photo, or having a soft toy to represent their companion. These objects offer ongoing comfort.

Supporting children through pet loss is not about taking away their sadness. It is about walking alongside them, giving them language, ritual, and permission to grieve in their own way.